The Train Just Keeps Rolling On…
I was listening to a documentary the other day and Jon BonJovi made a statement that really resonated with me. He said, “The train just keeps rolling on.” How true!
It made me think of how long I have been making excuses and having compassion and empathy for people and situations that are no longer aligned with me emotionally, spiritually, or energetically. How I need to stop trying to understand, fix, make amends or otherwise when the lesson has been learned, regardless of how desperately I may have wanted to love them through it. We often lose ourselves in the process.
It’s time to cut the cords and move on! If that person or situation does not want resolution and continues to push back in a way that is not healthy and toxic, that is the time to hand it over to the Universe and surrender.
But not only that… there is a time and a place where your body and soul speak to you, often through imbalance, illness or disease, even if temporarily it's a message that change is needed. You realize that the world has so much wonder and joy that is not being experienced because of these energetic connections. If the other person is not in agreement for resolution and healing, or not accepting amends, it is time to let go and release them with as much love and forgiveness as possible, to free you up to move on and away from the energy of resentment and ill will, knowing we are each others teachers.
You get to the point where you no longer feel that tug of compassion because you have almost become numb. According to Dr. Charles Figley there is such a thing as "Compassion Fatigue." It’s almost like burnout when you have spent years, and sometimes decades, trying to help others who are not receptive or not capable of resolution at this time. They clearly are on their own trajectory of learning and growing. We need to let them go and be grateful for the lessons that this relationship brought to us on our own journey of tolerance, endurance, kindness, forgiveness and surrender.
We learn that relationships, short or long, are meant to be reciprocal, not one-sided. Learning together is great if we get the lessons and grow together; otherwise, be grateful for the opportunity of learning a life lesson about our own strengths and weaknesses.
Life is a blessing and a gift! We want to embrace life in all its beauty and experience, all of its wonder without wasting another minute!
We all need love, kindness, acceptance, forgiveness and joy!!! If this is not reciprocated by one who is not willing to help themselves, and forgive themselves and others for past missteps, we realize it's the same thing year after year. We miss the train and it just keeps rolling along.
Step out and start living in freedom from the shackles of the past.
Stay well, stay safe, and step into your freedom.
In gratitude,
Sharon