Accountability vs Shame
The best approach in dealing with others is to meet people where they are at, do no harm, and never forget where you came from.
Have compassion for yourself when facing adversity. This is why understanding to be accountable to self in working through difficulties is vastly different than carrying shame or guilt.
Embark on a new approach of understanding how we are impacted by the actions, energy, and words from self and others on a daily basis… they are actually very powerful to our well being.
True recovery comes about by changing the way we think… the way we see things… which then changes our perception about our experiences. Our body then follows our mind... energetically this is where the shifts begin to happen, and then we see with a different perspective.
That is when the healing comes, and then we start to come out of our denial about life as we have known it… realizing that guilt and shame are wasted emotions.
The only approach necessary is to be accountable… to our own actions, responses, words, and thoughts. Through accountability we neutralize and then release them through the power of acceptance and forgiveness of self and others.
Where there is acceptance and responsibility… accountability follows. It’s a given.
We do not have to carry any guilt or shame once understood with clarity. Guilt and shame create a bondage in our mind through thoughts that are no longer part of our present reality.
We all have been impacted by the way we think by our family of origin and society. We grew up with different belief systems and judgements according to what we were exposed to and what we were taught… religious beliefs, sexual beliefs, all kinds of judgements and prejudice. However are these standards by well meaning, yet misguided role models always correct?
I have found that alcoholism and addictions often play a role in these afflictions and struggles we face… in our interpersonal relationships with families, friends, and even acquaintances… if not with ourselves.
The work of recovery is worth it to get to the other side of this dilemma. It blesses us with a whole new way of looking at ourselves, our history, our life. Our self esteem increases over time… and we are able to function in a way that seemed impossible for years.
It is a blessing to be free of all this unnecessary guilt and shame. Accountability is a gift that will set you free to move on in life without the tangle of guilt and shame.We are then positioned to cut the cords of the past and move on!
Facing what is and what has been and the lessons learned with gratitude.
Stay well, stay safe, and step into your freedom.
In gratitude,
Sharon