Radical Responsibility is Imperative in Recovery
I have had an strong awareness through this pandemic about recovery, counseling, therapy etc… and it may trigger some… yet it is important to think about.
It seems to me that our understanding of counseling and working through trauma in our recovery system has been approached in a way that is not beneficial for the majority of us-those receiving support and those of us on the other side.
I have observed that we have created an environment of enabling people to stay in their trauma and dysfunction.
Rather than stressing radical acceptance…by acknowledging our own responsibility in any relationship, misunderstanding, hurt, or offense… we have encouraged a society and generation to accept a “mambi pambi" “Whoa is me” attitude rather than responsibility.
We should be encouraging accountability not shame… forgiveness not blame.
It’s important to be reminded that every single time we talk or even think about and feel past hurt and trauma, we are giving life, once again, to our sorrows and pain. IT IS ESSENTIAL to acknowledge the sorrow and pain, feel it once, twice maybe, thank it for what it is showing us and bringing to our awareness to get to the core… and then RELEASE IT. The body does not know the difference between the first time trauma happens and when we speak of it over and over.
Why keep laying down repeated tracks of sorrow energetically in our body? Wouldn’t you prefer to lay new tracks - new tracks that move you away from the pain and into a happier state of mind, body, and spirit?
I have noticed this misadventure of the self-help world. In an effort to help others release pain and trauma, we have in effect created a very dysfunctional society that has misunderstood true recovery and forgiveness. They are choosing blame rather than overcoming by acceptance and responsibility.
We have done this to a society of seekers looking for relief from their past and their pain because unfortunately in the past the majority of counselors, therapists, and coaches… unless spiritually minded and understanding energy and neuroscience… have unintentionally and inadvertently created a generation of sick thinking people, remaining in their painful loop, who are not healing and are resentful and vindictive in their journey of trying to overcome.
If a relationship or environment is not conducive to our happiness and well-being… if there is no purpose to it… leave or distance from it as best you can. Stop looking to others to learn their lessons… they are on their own trajectory of learning… their own time line.
We have all experienced trauma… from others or even ourselves… through our own reactions to others actions… or at the hands of a narcissist or addict… or someone who is mentally ill… whatever the case, it is part of our journey through life.
The point is we need to overcome by being forgiving, loving, and peaceful.
It does no good to hold anyone else accountable and blame for your unhappiness and situation. If they are not willing to acknowledge their part in what has transpired… it does no good for us to hold onto the hope that they will see the light!
It is imperative to realize that this is our life… that we have chosen to experience it… to gain awareness… and learning… tolerance… endurance… overcoming… FORGIVENESS!
Yes, we need to go to the body where we are hiding onto the energy of hurt, pain, and trauma. Acknowledge it ourselves… neutralize it by seeing it and feeling it… and then release it out into the ethers by letting it go… back to source as energy alchemized, not held onto in our bodies to poison our energy.
Release it. Move on.
Stay well, stay safe, and step into your freedom.
In gratitude,
Sharon
“The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.”
― Sue Morter
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